My son is 7. His father is a raggedy niggER. At 17, you couldnt tell me anything but that was then. He is not on child support, didnt sign the birth certificate and only claims his son when HE feels like it. I call him a theoretical father.lls. Anyway, i got married in February to my best friend that i have known since my first day of college 8 years ago. Unlike most of the males from my hood (Baltimore), he came from a middle class, two parent home (his parents have been married 30 years).
Khalil(my son) has been exhibiting horrible behaviors learned from his woman beating father, in school. he is ABUSING the young ladies in his class to the point that they are giving him money NOT to hit them. WTF. That is unacceptable. After the 4th suspension in so many weeks, i told my husband to whip his ass. I mean, ive been his mother 7 years and i know my spanking aint working. He showed me that by going back to school the next day (or the same day we take him back) and doing the same dumb shit. Now--i phoned his father daily begging him to talk to his child. Phoned my mama and everybody else i know seeking assistance because this aint the child i know....outside of my in-laws no one did/said anything.
Well last week my son got his little ass whipped and all hell broke loose.
My mother said my husband should not hit him because he aint his son. His father said he shouldnt hit him because he aint his son.......these fools called cps! These same people, who wouldnt come and assist with this strong willed, intelligent young man-- now have so much concern for his safety. Frankly he is only exhibiting behaviors that he has been exposed to while on weekends with his father who has the mentality, "if that bitch dont do what i say, imma beat her ass." I told my sperm donor that he can keep it moving--his services (whatever they were) are not needed. I told my mother to deal with the monster she is creating (a whole 'nother story) and let me run my household as i see fit. Now im a bad mother.
In your personal opinion was i wrong for allowing my husband to discipline my child? If i took away his power to discipline him now, isnt it safe to say in the future we would only be faced with disrespect from him?
Im soo frustrated by this who situation because lord knows all i want is my son back. On a lighter note---his little ass aint had one problem in school this week.lls
Monday, April 5, 2010
like 3 weeks ago...this is what ive been going through
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Being in a blended family is difficult. If your husband is there to provide for your son as a father in all other aspects, why should he NOT discipline him? I've had to tell people to mind their business about this issue. If you maintain the reason that "he isn't his biological father, so he can't discipline him" then you're setting your whole household up to be constantly disturbed, with a 7 year old running the show. Anyone who is close to me is allowed to discipline my children. This doesn't always mean beating him, but definitely correct his behavior. Family, close friends, and my husband. It really does take a village to raise a child.
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